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    Friday, January 18, 2008, 08:44 AM [General]

    So last night was an intresting one, first off a little insight about me, i am almost 22 years old, i have never met my father let alone seen a picture of him, my mother raised me on her own for the first 15 years, then she married her current husband Steve, he and i haven't had the best relationship, even to this day it is still rocky yet we both respect each other and i look up to him for he was the only male figure i could see as a father. That all changed last night, my mom called me and told me to go onto her myspace and loook at a certain picture, when i did she said three words to me that sent my world for a spin. "Meet your father," for the past 21 years i have been curious to meet my father, and also thinking what i would do if i ever met him, punch him, hug him, what? i thought for the longest time that he had wanted nothing to do with me, and now my mom tells me that he has tried to contact us but we have moved around so much that it was near impossible for him, now i understand that, we HAVe moved quite a bit, but we lived in the same area of Cali for 11 years, it wouldn't have been that hard, and even then he could have gone to my grandma's and asked her she's lived at the same house for the longest time, before i was born. Now i don't know what to even do, he's trying to make the effort and i don't know what to say to him, its so hard. *sigh* i guess we'll see how it goes
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    I know this is a hard time to go through as you have many thoughts going through you mind. If it was me in this situation I would hear him out first of all, make a decision on what he's saying, ask him that very question about your grandma, and then if it isn't believeable then take it from there. Don't rush into actions before you know for sure what's up with him. Making a mistake by rejecting him, could cost you a relationship that you've longed for. Just my two cents worth, and good luck to you...
    Blessings, and May the Gods lead you in the direction that is best for you....

    Pathwalker
    January 18, 2008
    09:34 AM CST

    Obviously you already know what I feel and think about all this, and that I agree with Pathwalker. But honestly babyboy, no matter how things turn out or what happens, know that I will be standing beside you supporting you thru it all.

    Sammi
    January 18, 2008
    10:13 AM CST

    I'm going to agree here, too.
    I had a similar experience with my own father. As it turned out, the end result of that experience was not a good one, in my case. But I've always had the knowledge that I broke out of a paradigm and took a risk at sowing love where there had been only disregard and bitterness.

    I hope, in your case, that it's an illuminating and healing thing for the both of you. Blessings, brother. And have a good day.

    A.W.O.L.
    January 20, 2008
    12:34 PM CST

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